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Communication is the key to a successful result when dealing with used car repair shops. The first, and most important, aspect is for the car owner to be prepared to explain the problem in detail. It may be helpful to have an idea when the problem first began and whether it is a constant or sporadic occurrence. The technicians at the used car repair shop will be able to better understand the problem and possibly locate it faster with the help of the car owner. For instance, if the problem is most noticeable when the brakes are applied or during acceleration, this will be important information for the used car repair shop.
While explaining the automobile’s problem to a used car repair shop, it will be ideal if the car owner could provide a written list of the symptoms that their car is experiencing. It is also important that the car owner not suggest a remedy, but rather allow the used car repair shop technician to diagnose the problem and offer a suggested course of action to repair the problem. The technician is a professional who is knowledgeable with cars and what to look for, so it will not make the process any quicker if the car owner is suggesting a remedy before the technician has had an opportunity to inspect the car.
The car owner should not be embarrassed to ask questions or request more detailed information regarding automotive terms. There is truth in the adage that indicates, “there is no such thing as a stupid question.” While it is important to ask plenty of questions, it is equally important for a car owner to refrain from demanding an immediate diagnosis. It is best for the owner to leave a telephone number, at which he/she may be contacted, with the used car repair shop. The best idea is to request an update, cost estimate and approximate time of completion prior to the actual work beginning.
If the used car repair shop informs the car owner that new equipment must be installed, the owner should inquire about warranties and any available guarantee. If either exists, the information should be provided in writing and a copy given to the car owner for his/her records. It is also a good idea to inquire about payment options. Some used car repair shops may allow their customers to make convenient monthly payments after the work has been done, while many require immediate payment in the form of cash, money order, check or credit card.
The teenage years are a roller coaster ride. I remember mine well. I think adults forget too easily the pressures that being a teen brings. The peer pressure is immense. The need to conform to the crowd; in fashion, in music, in activities, and in what’s cool and what’s not drives our every activity. Topping the list is the need to love and be loved. Don’t get me wrong, the need for love doesn’t magically disappear after the teenage years, it just comes a little more rational, a little more mature.
When you’re young love is the most powerful force in the universe. You fall head over heels in love. Everything you do, every waking thought gravitates around your partner. Life is wonderful, and you don’t have a care in the world. Then just when you’re at a high, BAM, he dumps you and tells you he doesn’t love you anymore. Unless he’s a complete jerk he does it graciously, gently, telling you how you’re too good for him, how you could do much better, and the like… but it’s still being dumped..and being dumped is never a good feeling at any age.
Dozens of emotions converge at once. You’ve lost him and you won’t see him again. What will your friend say? You’ll be the laughing stock. Your confidence takes a battering. What went wrong? What did you do? How could this happen?
The short answer is very often nothing went wrong. His hormones are bouncing around as much as yours, and committing to a long term relationship is often difficult.
After the initial shock you get your thoughts in order. Do you let him go or do you fight to get him back. A part of you no doubt wants to hurt him as much as he has hurt you, humiliate him in front of his friends like he humiliated you.
If you do decide to get him back how do you go about it? Where do you start? You ask your friend; each has a different opinion; each has a different approach. In desperation you give up seeking advice from friends and I do what you always do when you have a problem; you Google it.
When I first started photography shooting strictly on location, a couple years back, finding a location for photo-sessions seemed to be such an obstacle for me. Where can I shoot that’s really interesting and eye-catching? I asked myself. A few years later and much more knowledgeable, I can definitely say the background is not as important as you may think. It’s all about drawing the eye to the subject/subjects with minimal distractions (usually). Now I don’t mean to take some of the fun out of it, finding a suitable location and adding a personal touch is really a great thing. Aside from the obvious (parks, clients’ home, etc.) here are some really great places to shoot that I have had luck with:
• Downtown: Live near a city or a trendy spot people like to hang out in? Just take a walk downtown sometime and find the many cool places you can capture in one 30 min-1 hr long session! (Parking garages, brick buildings, funky doorways/window frames, benches, capture your subject walking down the sidewalk…the list goes on!
• Want to add a bit of grit or contrast to your image? Visit your local junkyard and ask for permission to use the location for a shoot (make sure they sign a release!) This can add contrast if you had a female wearing a formal cocktail dress or a bathing suit and really adds a bit of grit to your images no matter what your subject may be wearing.
• Forget about the parks, they are so overpopulated and well, expected! Surprise your client and take them on a short hike through a nature trail. Nature trails are so great because you will usually stumble by a lot of interesting parts of nature to play with in your photos. You may see a riverbed, maybe a lake, a beautiful part of the forest (if you are shooting a couple, have them carve their names in the tree and take a personalized portrait). Maybe you will find a fallen tree and use it as a bench, steer away from the norm you usually find at parks and surprise your client.
• Again it’s all about your client: the less distractions the better. One of my favorite places to go is this field nearby with tall grass(in the autumn everything is golden and adds a nice warm touch) and wide open space with not much around to distract the eye. Now you can step it up a notch and play with this a little or a lot. By placing a couch, chair or trunk in the photo, you will find it easily adds a rustic elegance and provides your client with a prop to sit/lean on, trust me they will absolutely LOVE it!
Many mistakes can be made easily by not determining what your future vision is as a couple. One may have a vision of the future in their mind, which is completely the opposite of what the other person has in their mind. Young couples don’t really have that much of a picture in their heads as to how they would want to have the future look like.
I had discovered this a bit too late myself, but it is a good lesson if one is serious about bonding and having a great future together. The decision to get married at times is easy to come to. Infatuation at first is the normal way of bonding with your perspective mate. That is all well and good only if the future is seriously taken into consideration. You may love each other very much, but one spouse is looking into the future thinking a house in the country, while the other is thinking a condo in the city. One is thinking a quiet retirement in Florida, while the other is thinking a taking train rides all over the country, visiting Europe and Asia.
What couples really need when they want to start out is to layout on the table what their needs and wants are. This is usually pinned to current events, such as go out every weekend to a nice dinner or what you want in the bedroom. Yet life is more than that. Maybe one spouse is thinking that she wants to stay home and not work. While the other spouse is thinking that she should be working unless they plan to have children. We have so many options right now, where the man can stay with the kids while the woman goes out to make a living.
What about the handling of money! We know that this issue comes up. What couples need to know is your spouse in debt? Does he or she have a history of overspending? Is this important, you bet it is. What if this couple is careless with money? Better yet what if one is tight with money and the other isn’t? This has to be handled way in advance. This would be a disaster in the making if they didn’t know what their behavior towards money was. This issue will obviously need to be discussed before you tie the knot. To have a successful marriage you need to know what is being brought to the table, not just emotionally, but financially and overall lifestyle as well.
You look at even one’s religious or spiritual belief’s, what if one is really a devout religious believer and the other one isn’t. How would they cope with this or even have the marriage survive? It would be a good thing to know before you get very serious about making this bond. These aren’t unusual problems or challenges, they are actually very common. The point is to know before you go.
Financial support is a key but one has to look at the emotional balances; to see the emotional tone the other person is bringing to the table. If one is always a Doubting Thomas and the other is optimistic most of the time, how do you reconcile these two behaviors? There will have to be some middle ground. If one is really sensitive to name calling and the other is not, then you have again a division of reaction and response.
I would not say that you have to be a perfect fit. That doesn’t exist as far as I know. You need to know what the other person is like and how they will react to stresses in life. Also one can change their mind later in life. Take the situation where both are agreed not to have children for the first 5 years of marriage. Then on the second year, one starts to hint that they want kids now. Here we have another point of disagreement and it throws the relationship into a tail spin.
You may say well if they really love each other that wouldn’t make a difference. Sorry it does. It is the same thing about having one support the other while they go to school to get a degree or some specialized training. What happens when one decides their either tired of working and supporting the other, while the other decides on a different major. Look to see what the history is on follow through. That is another one of those things that no one looks at. Does that person coming into this relationship show that they do walk their talk? If they have a history of not completing things, what is the probability of them completing that activity?
Part of bonding a relationship is know, what the other person expects to have happen and their willingness to support the other persons endeavors. We know life isn’t perfect, so we need to have our cards on the table. To bond is simply not just wearing a wedding band; it is having that relationship for life. If you know that your partner is squeamish about illness, what will be the probability of that person sticking with you if you were injured or disabled?
Habits and routines in the relationship are also paramount to know about. If one person is a couch potato and the other is an adrenaline junkie, what are the possibilities of this union to be kept together? In order to have a great relationship you need to know where it is headed or going. There should be a direction that is designated and agreed upon without protest in anyone’s heart.
There are definite ways to reconcile the needs and wants of any relationship. The provision is that it can not be that far apart! It just makes sense that if you pick a person who believes in worshipping the devil and you are a devout Christian that just isn’t going to work.
What the future holds can be examined in your present environment. My test is to always start with the question where do you see yourself 20 years from now? Then one can start breaking it down to all the details that would be inclusive of the overall goals of the couple. That couple needs to define where they are going and how they believe they can get there and are they really together on this journey. It is a starting point to integrate, negotiate and join them together on the journey they are about to partake. Hope that this has been a good overview of what one has to consider to bond in a permanent relationship.
The Porsche sports car company has come along way since its early beginnings, the company was founded as Dr. Ferdinand Porsche in 1931 who was an Austrian engineer born in “Maffersdorf”, at the time of the Austro-Hungarian Empire.
Porsche GmbH initially offered motor vehicle development work and consultancy for the then German Government and the first major project was to develop a car for the people, this was later called the Volkswagen Kafer (or VW Beetle as it became known to the English). It wasn’t until 1939 that Dr. Ferdinand Porsche developed the first car the bore his name, the “Porsche 64″, it was developed using many components from the Beetle. The first road certified Porsche that was available to the public to buy was the Porsche 356; it went on general sale in 1948.
The Porsche 356 is still an iconic sports car, and in with today’s prices, commands a very high price if you can find an original early example or a rare Porsche 356 “Carrera” model, as these are always in demand by serious car collectors or Porsche fan’s who want to drive some motoring history. As back in 1951, the little known Porsche 356 SL took a class victory at the Le Mans 24 Hour Race, which placed it firmly on the sports car map.
Next on the Porsche most wanted list would have to be the Porsche 550 Spyder, which was a roof-less out-and-out light weight developed race car, in 1956 the 550 Spyder took its first overall victory, at the Targa Florio, Italy. The 550 Spyder was immortalised with a one of its most famous owners and movie legend James Dean, who died behind the wheel of his 550 Spyder in a road traffic accident.
The 911 was first debuted in 1964 and went into production. This was another air-cooled, rear-engined sports car, this time sporting a flat six-cylinder “boxer” style engine. Because of the successes of both the 356 and the 550 Spyder, the Porsche 911 attracted immediate attention from around the world and today is what typifies the Porsche name and brand. In a recent international poll for the award of “Car of the Century”, the 911 came fifth, so it just shows the car’s popularity.
Also from the 911 stable is the Porsche 911 RS Carrera which was first produced in 1973 this was the Porsche to own on the 70′s and was handed down technology and many parts from the factory Porsche Race Team, which was due to their many racing victories around the world. The 911 body styling influence can still be seen in most of the current Porsche water-cooled models.
If you have a bad tattoo, hindsight has probably shown you what went wrong. This article will hopefully give you some hints to avoid it happening again.
What are the two things I notice most with people as soon as the summer arrives and the sun comes out?
1. A lot of people are overweight, and wear ill-fitting skimpy clothing, exaggerating the fact.
2. There are a lot of people with BAD TATTOO DESIGNS out there!
We’ve all seen them haven’t we?
The lopsided heart motif on the forearm which looks like a child’s crayon has been used. The “portrait” of a loved one that looks like your favourite animal. The written script that is spelt incorrectly, and isn’t straight.
Just Google the term “bad tattoo designs” and look at the images, its horrific. I’d like to think that some of the images are hoaxes but sadly it’s probably not the case. Some designs are well crafted, but the subject matter is a joke and was quite obviously conceived when the tattoo collector was less than sober at the time.
So how do you end up with a bad tattoo design?
1. Believing that you or a close friend are the best thing to happen to the tattoo world and attempt to do it yourself. Home made tattoos are the worst culprits. They are poorly executed with the wrong methods and materials and look exactly that. As if a child has crayoned the image on.
2. Getting blind drunk with your friends, managing to convince the tattooist that you are somewhat sober, and deciding that some random cartoon character would look good on you chest. The side effects of drink obviously don’t last forever. Wake up in the morning and the first thing you will be thinking off is how to get rid of the ink. You can’t. Not without expensive and painful laser surgery.
3. Having a great idea for a tattoo, but not spending enough time to plan the layout. Part of the beauty of tattoo art is how the piece compliments the body placing. For instance, a Japanese dragon flowing down the side of your arm or leg can look very striking. But just plonking it in the most available space on your body can have disastrous effects to any further placing of tattoos. If you’ve decided on a great piece then fine. But spend MORE TIME deciding on where you’re going to place it.
How do you avoid a bad tattoo?
Simple, PLAN, PLAN AND PLAN again. Think long and hard before you commit, you’re less likely to regret it in the long run.
Before you’ll be meeting new single women for love and romance, take an inventory of the things that are important to you, and that you’d like to talk about. What are you excited about now? What changes are taking place in your life? What have been the most important events or people in your life? What future plans are you most enthusiastic about? Why do you feel the way you do about things? What are your concerns? What is your vision for the future? What are your likes and preferences?
The answers to these questions tell her how you relate to the world around you. Be specific, so that your conversational partner gets a lot of free information to pick up on. Communicate your enthusiasm. Disclose some of your feelings and values.
Some Fall-Backs For Shy Men
If you’re shy and have trouble talking to single women, it helps to be prepared with things to talk about. Besides the things that are most important to you, here are sources for conversational fuel:
Come up with 3 or 4 interesting or exciting things that have happened to you recently. Practice telling these stories on family or friends, or practice in front of a mirror or with a tape recorder.
Read current newspapers and magazines, and be prepared to talk about events that interest you.
Collect a couple of sure-fire, inoffensive jokes.
Become knowledgeable about what’s going on in your city. People always want to know more about what’s happening locally.
See current movies and read current books. You’re bound to find single women who have seen the same movies or read the same books.
If you haven’t noticed, in the past few years half of the women in the world have all of the sudden fallen in love with vampires. They’re everywhere: movies, books, bumper stickers, posters, screen savers, cell phone skins, in fact, there’s a good chance that your wife or girlfriend is trying to hide one in her closet.
Now vampires have walked among for us centuries, but something’s changed. Today’s vampires are simply fabulous. It’s enough to make a mere mortal man wonder: how is a flesh and blood, non-vampire like me gonna compete with these guys. They never need sleep, can travel about 900 mile per hour, they sparkle, (yep sparkle) and have ice cold skin (I really don’t get the appeal of that one). If that’s not enough, you should see them play baseball.
I’m going on record right now – If we elect a vampire president in 2012, I’m leaving the country… I’m not sure where I’d go, but it doesn’t really matter because people who make such threats never actually leave.
Here’s the real truth about vampires.
I wanted to understand just why the vampires had returned with such a sweet vengeance. After several years of research, including actual private meetings with prominent members of the vampire community, I’m now able to share the real truth about what has happened to cause such a cultural revolution in the vampire world.
For years the vampire brand had been sinking. They were viewed as funny talking, cape wearing, undesirables. They were being mocked in movies like “Love at First Bite”. Then Buffy came along and starting slaying them. They were being portrayed as bats, and coffin sleeping weirdos. Some people had even begun to place them in the same company with demons, werewolves, and zombies. Something had to be done. They needed a plan. They had to change their image.
In May of 2002, the World Counsel for the Advancement of Vampire Causes met somewhere near Cave Creek, Arizona. Several different factions of the vampire community were in attendance.
For those of you who didn’t know that there are differing divisions of vampires, perhaps I should take a moment to define the different groups represented at the gathering.
First there were the purists. These are the vampires you’ve probably heard of. They are defined by their consumption of human blood. While a few of the older one’s do sleep in coffins and only come out at night, most do not sleep at all and circulate among us even going out during daytime as long as it cloudy.
The second group, made up of mostly young, idealistic vampires is (laughingly) referred as vegetarians. In the strictest sense, they are not vegans. They do drink animal blood, just not human blood.
The Most Fruitful Assembly in Centuries
By midnight of day two, they had a plan. They had found “The One” who could transform their image into everything they wanted it to be.
Stephenie Meyer Morgan, age 29; they would visit her in a dream on June second of that same year and plant the necessary seed for a novel about them. They would give her the story they wanted her to write. It would be like no other vampire story written, oozing with romance, angst, and attractive characters.
“But she’s an unknown writer” complained some of the elderly wise vampires.
“Exactly why she’s perfect” claimed others
“But a book won’t be enough, we need more”
“There will be more, a movie, and a second movie, and a third movie. Everyone will know us, and love us again
The plan worked beyond their wildest dreams!
Conclusion: A word of advice to men
Here are a few things you guys need to know about women and vampires. This is particularly important information if you are a guy who is married or in a committed relationship.
1) The reason your wife/ girlfriend enjoys the Twilight books and movies so much is that they give her that wonderful, romantic feeling of being young and in love. She still loves you (maybe), but you must accept the fact that you will never mean as much to her as Edward does.
2) Strange as it may seem, there are no fat, bald, ugly vampires. They all look like Chippendale dancers. While your girl still loves you (maybe), you must accept the fact that you will never look as good as a vampire.
3) You can try to train your body until you can travel at the speed of sound, learn to sparkle, and bury yourself in a tub of ice. Your girl will laugh at your efforts, and she’ll still love you (maybe) but you must accept the fact that you will never be as good as Edward.
4) Finally, and guys I must warn you, this one is vitally important. In your wife/girlfriends mind, it’s perfectly normal and acceptable for her to obsess, romanticize and even fall in love with a vampire. Do not… I repeat DO NOT under any circumstance think that this gives you the right to obsess about Anne Hathaway, or the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders.
And that’s the real truth about vampires, really.
What is Goth? Is it something to be feared or can it make its mark in the singles chart like any other type of music? Well, that is open to debate, but it has certainly reared its pale head on more than one occasion amongst the mainstream singles…
Here are 6 of the greatest Goth tracks that really made it big -
1 – ‘This Corrosion’ – The Sisters of Mercy (MK II)
After the split of the original Sisters line-up, no-one was quite sure what would happen next…. So when Andrew Eldritch pulled this wild card from his dark sleeve it really caused a stir!
‘This Corrosion’ features a ludicrous amount of over production (thanks to Jim Steinman – Mr Over Production himself!) and it really did blow everyone away. It was quite a shift in style for The Sisters, but certainly a very welcome one!!!
2 – ‘Peek-a-Boo’ – Siouxsie and the Banshees
At a time when The Top Forty was dominated by (ugh!) House Music, ‘Peek-a-Boo’ gained a great deal of attention. In fact, with its unconventional use of traditional and downright unfashionable instruments (such as the accordion), it was almost like a Gothic response to the House epidemic!
And when you couple that with a genuinely creepy video full of dark freak show (and peep show) imagery, you just know you are onto a winner!
3 – ‘Lullaby’ – The Cure
When Robert Smith was banned from Top of the Pops for his ‘overly scary make-up’, it only increased everyone’s interest in this wonderfully eerie track.
This was certainly not the first time that The Cure had dipped their toes into mainstream music, but ‘Lullaby’ was a truly defining moment. ‘The spider man is having me for dinner tonight…’
4 – ‘Bela Lugosi’s Dead’ – Bauhaus
This is judged by many as the first true Goth song… and there is certainly a strong case for this.
No-one had ever managed to create a song that sounded quite as sinister as ‘Bela Lugosi’s Dead’; percussion like rattling bones and guitars like stuttering vampire steps. And Peter Murphy’s voice really was the icing on this black cake with its genuinely unsettling dramatic desperation…
5 – ‘Love Will Tear us Apart’ – Joy Division
By using their trademark Industrial sound, Joy Division came up with this gem of a song way back in 1980. This is the most commercial that the late (and very great) Ian Curtis had ever got with his song writing and it definitely resulted in a very ‘catchy’ track… but it all has a great sadness about it too.
When you listen to the lyrics of ‘Love Will Tear us Apart’, you just know that they have been written about some very personal and painful experiences.
6 – ‘Temple of Love 1992′ (Touched by the Hand of Ofra Haza) – The Sisters of Mercy (MK III)
The third (and current) incantation of The Sisters has a far heavier guitar-driven sound. So when they released this reworking of their classic 1983 track it was a very exciting time indeed.
And (as if that were not enough!) it also featured the angelic voice of Ofra Haza on backing vocals!!! Sublime!
This went on to be one of Goth’s highest ranking singles ever (it reached number three in the UK charts) and it was even featured as Radio One’s ‘Song of the Week’! And that’s just freaky…
If the topic you’ve been discussing seems to be on the verge of dying, one way of changing topics is to ask a ritual question. You might say, “You said you’ve been in Florida for three years. Where were you before then?” Sometimes you might want to change to another topic for only a brief moment. All you have to do is say: “Excuse me, but I’d like to change the subject for a moment,” and then make your comment or ask your question.
Try to complete your ideas quickly and then return to your original topic of discussion. Don’t do this too often. You may give the impression that your mind is scattered, or that you cannot (or don’t care to) discuss a particular topic on a meaningful level, and therefore are avoiding the topic. It may also suggest that you are not listening or that you are bored with the subject matter.
Make Use of Names
Repeat her name several times as you speak. That will help you remember it. Moreover, using her name is one of the easiest and most meaningful compliments you can give. You might find it easier to remember names if you visualize them written out. Ask how to spell a difficult name. If you happen to forget her name, it’s perfectly OK to say, “Forgive me, but tell me your name again.” Don’t be embarrassed. And don’t try to fake it – a “Christie resents being called “Crissie.”